To me, that means that some days you’ll show up to the gym and you’ll only be able to do a certain amount of exercise…

but you’re still showing up and doing what you can that day. Some weeks we will have the sexual desire and drive to want to make love to our partners five to ten times.

Or my female clients often stress about whether or not they’ll achieve an orgasm through penetrative sex with their partner. If you’ve never experienced extended sexual play without orgasms I highly recommend giving it a shot.

It’s beautiful, relaxing, calming, and a supremely connecting exercise for you and your partner.

This tip isn’t as much about cultivating sexual desire as it is about taking your relationships pulse.

If you hug your partner for several minutes straight you will be able to pick up on a lot of cues as to how you are both feeling emotionally at that time. Our hugs (and the quality of our physical intimacy in general) can tell us a lot about the state of our relationship.

If you have felt low sexual desire for a while it might feel like an uphill battle when you first lean in to these exercises…

Whatever you call them, flirty text messages are the reality for most people dating in 2017.

One of my favourite ideas/mantras/concepts is doing the best you can, when you can.

We’re so in our heads that we often feel disconnected from our bodies and our hearts. This isn’t the first time I’ve talked about limiting orgasms on my site (ahem)… I’ve seen orgasms cause a lot of anxiety in my clients sex lives (both male and female).

And while I discussed reconnecting with your heart (by removing your sexual blocks) in point #1, it is equally as important to reconnect with your body. It’s most often my male clients being concerned with helping their female partner orgasm “enough” times so that they feel satisfied. Make it so that they aren’t an option on certain nights (or during specific sexual play sessions).(Note: One of my clients calls these times with her husband their “No O time.”)By taking orgasms out of the picture, you and your partner are free to fully experience the cyclical sexual pleasure that your bodies naturally want to feel without it being a goal-centric endeavour.

but really, sexual desire only drops in relationships when the relationship hasn’t been made a priority in a while.

It isn’t time that’s to blame, it’s the effort that’s being consciously put into the relationship.